Reimagining our Tactic: The Pro-life Movement

Today in the state of Illinois, going against his promise to his constituents and the legislators of Illinois, Governor Bruce Rauner signed into law mandated taxpayer funding of abortion for those on Medicaid. It is estimated that this will effectively increase the number of abortions in Illinois by the thousands – and the financial burden (and arguably moral burden, for many) of these will weigh on Illinois residents. This in a state that already has a much higher abortion rate than the states around us, and an infamous problem with our finances to boot.

As I thought about this, riding the El home from work today, I couldn’t help but feel that, politically, the pro-life movement seems to be losing, rather than gaining ground. In some ways. But abortion is still legal through all nine months of pregnancy for any reason. So yes, it feels like not much has changed.

Then I began to wonder, what would happen if we, as a movement, acted like abortion laws were here to stay?

To be clear, I am not suggesting we should stop lobbying for the legal protection of unborn children. But if ultimately the goal of the pro-life movement is to provide protection for the unborn, I wonder if the very tunnel-vision focus on changing abortion law is helping or hurting that goal. I guess this is what I am asking: if we could not change abortion law in our country, what would we do differently to change abortion numbers and save lives? Especially in the political sphere?

Would we lobby to provide better healthcare for women, especially low income women, so they felt more able to choose life when they become pregnant?

Would we advocate for better parental leave policies for both mothers and fathers so that women aren’t forced to choose between a career and a child?

Similarly, would we work to eliminate workplace discrimination against mothers, of whom it is often assumed they will be less committed to their jobs upon having children?

Could we even, as a Church, try to eliminate the stigma and shame that surrounds single motherhood in our own communities, allowing for grace and providing support to new mothers who are in an unexpected pregnancy?

On a day where it feels like we’re losing ground in the fight for the life of America’s most vulnerable, I am not giving up. I’m looking for new avenues to empower women to choose life, even if they have the choice not to. Will you join me?


A Small Aching

Is it possible to be homesick only 30 miles from home?

I know the answer to this question. In college, I would get homesick 2 miles from home. Sometimes I got in my car and drove back to my family’s house, for dinner with my parents and sister, to study where I knew it was quiet and the snacks were free, or even when the house was empty of people, just to sit on the floor with my small curly dog for a while.

I could do the same thing tonight, if I really wanted to. I’m only 30 miles away. Even accounting for the terminally unpredictable traffic on the Kennedy Expressway, I could be home in less than an hour. It’s just my dad and my dog there tonight. We could watch a few innings of baseball and drink a beer, talk, or not. I could just be home for a while.

But honestly, that wouldn’t help with the homesickness. I mean it would, for a little while. Yet even as I sat there in my white painted family room on the chocolate leather couch, the woozy feeling that attacks my heart and stomach simultaneously would sneak back in. (I was going to say creep, but that is not accurate. For me, homesickness attacks suddenly and viciously.) I’d know that all too shortly I’d get back in my car and drive east to my apartment. Even if I was to spend the night, sleeping in the bedroom that has been mine for 18 years, I’d go to bed with a slight ache in my gut, knowing the alarm would go off at an ungodly hour only adults rise at and I would be off, back to the city and back to work. Continue reading “A Small Aching”

An Open Letter to my “Not-Yet” Friend

Dear Friend,

Can I call you that? I’m not sure. We’re not really friends yet. Maybe we haven’t even met. Or maybe we have. Maybe we sat at the same table at a young professional networking event and struck up a stilted conversation for 10 or so minutes before the speaker began the program.

Maybe we learned that we both grew up in suburbs – you on the northern fringe of Chicago while I was straight west. Maybe we learned where we work now and what we studied in school. Then that awkward pause came, the one that inevitably follows reaching the end of the list of appropriate small talk questions. Then the speaker started.

After he finished, one of your friends from church came up on your left-hand side and you dove deep into conversation about the difficulties your brother is facing in school right now. I remained, standing to your right, outside of this intimate conversation, unsure how to enter in, unsure if I should stay nearby hoping to continue our conversation from before. Hoping to get a chance to become friends.

After a few minutes I snuck away, not even sure if I should interrupt to say goodbye and nice to meet you and let’s talk again some time, I think we could be good friends. (Who says that? Too bold. Yet, I often want to.) With that you became another person I want to be friends with. But we’re not. Not yet.

Like so many others. Continue reading “An Open Letter to my “Not-Yet” Friend”

An Advent Heart

I like being called to holiness, and not just reminded of my sins. (Don’t we all?) I was thinking of this lately as I considered the different impact Advent has on my heart and spiritual than that of Lent. They are both penitential seasons, after all; yet they impact me differently, and I started to wonder why.

Lent is heavy. Penance. I am a sinner and Christ died for those sins. I place my hope in his mercy and forgiveness. That sort of thing.

Not to sound casual, just trying to summarize. After all, it’s a beautiful season, and I am always eager for it when we get to that moment of the liturgical season. But it is heavy. I am called to contemplate my sins as I reprove my body with penance and fasting, helping my soul lean in to repentance and transformation by engaging my body in the action. It’s easy to feel the futility of that task, though, until I get to Easter and remember the story that makes the whole endeavor possible. Christ’s unending grace. Continue reading “An Advent Heart”

Things I Would Do If I Had More Time

  1. Write blog posts.
  2. Just write. And luxuriate in it.
  3. Paint my nails. (And watch Gilmore Girls.)
  4. Embroider. (And watch Gilmore Girls.)
  5. DIY Home Projects:
    1. Kitchen utensil storage
    2. Paint my vanity
    3. Hang things in my room
    4. Cart for the kitchen?
    5. Bookshelf for my room?
  6. Cook lovely meals and bake things.
  7. Read good books. Sit & drink tea & read good books.
  8. Write letters to people I love.
  9. Pray more.
  10. Memorize Shakespeare (just for fun).
  11. Figure out how investing works.

So What About an Elephant?

My lunchtime spot for musing, photo from earlier this fall

When I sat down in Arena Theater, in the black box where I had acted and built sets and stage managed for my four years at Wheaton College, I looked up at the man that had brought me there. He looked at me too. He didn’t smile. Well, at least not in the broad, welcoming sort of way. There was a hint of it at the corner of his cheek. Although, that may have been imagined. His eyes were smiling and open-hearted.

He didn’t greet me in any way. But we did share that look for longer than most folks would feel comfortable with.

To be honest, I was a little uncomfortable. I did feel the need to make him feel more at home; it was, after all, his first time in this place that was a second home to me. Yet, I was left without a way to do that, besides smile, which I did. And then I just continued to hold his gaze for a minute or so longer.

It was new, and uncomfortable, but not foreign. Arena Theater had been for me, and continues to be for others, a place of open-hearted gazing. Relationships were built on this idea that we looked at each other with intention, even wonder. What is going on with you today? I see you. I notice you. Notice your tears or smiles or giggles or inability to sit still for more than moment.

It was actors’ work. We were actors, after all. We tried to look around with a sense of curiosity. To notice things with intention, with interest. Not assuming the person or situation was the same as the last time we had looked at it.

He told us about the “gaze of the elephant.” I don’t remember whose story it was, perhaps he didn’t say, but someone had told him to look out at the world in the way an elephant does. Continue reading “So What About an Elephant?”

Yes’s and No’s

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Things this blog is:

    1. A place to work things out.
    2. A place to remember little moments. Big moments too.
    3. A place to share the things I find delight in.
    4. A tiny corner of my inner life (pretentious, I know).
    5. My rehearsals as a writer.
    6. An intersection of everyday life and theology and being a woman and food. There will definitely be thoughts about food.
    7. Honest. (If not, call me out on it.)
    8. Imperfect (ideas, format, grammar and more!).
    9. A conversation.

Things this blog is not:

  1. A finished product.
  2. A polished writing sample.
  3. Neat and tidy.
  4. Political (Lord save us).
  5. Any type of authority. Especially in the theology department.


But come, and read. It’s not that bad.